Assalam o Alaikum I am a male 28 years old and my wife is 23 years old. We have been married for two years. We have no kids yet. We are a happy couple with normal life. Unfortunately i was into pornography at very earlier age and it become a addiction. I thought after marriage this issue will be resolved but no i still watch it and also I started to share clips with my wife too. She watch them just for my sake to keep me happy. As time goes, she also started to like it. Soon from these clips we developed a fantasy of threesome (two male and one female). We used to do chats about this fantasy and enjoy it. After some time, almost 4 months ago we decided to invite our friend for this purpose. He is unmarried. We decided to give it a try and invited him for threesome. We started although we all were hesitating and realising there is something wrong with it… But we continued. We undressed my wife and start romancing but as soon as my wife undressed him he got climax and nothing happened after that. I immediately regain my senses and told my wife to dress up and told my friend to leave immediately. So no penetration happened. Just undressing and some kisses and romance happened. Now i am regretting that and i just came to know that my marriage is broken. I want to confirm if my marriage is intact. I want to revert back to Allah. I and my wife both are in shame and regretful. We both love each other and it all happened just… We didn’t wanted to do it again. Is our marriage still valid. If not what can we do now?
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Brother in Islam,
We take note of the contents of your email. It is unfortunate to know that you were involved in the immoral act of arranging Zina for your own spouse. This behavior is Un-Islamic and against the teachings of Islam.
Shame and modesty are emphasized in Shariah and are one of the core values of Islam.
It encourages its followers to be modest and not have the instincts of animals. Modesty is one of the things which distinguish a human being from an animal.
The need for intimacy between spouses is natural. However, it is not permissible and is against shame and modesty for a person to do any of the things that you have stated.
In Islam, a man may fulfil his intimate needs only with her legitimate wife. Likewise, a woman can only fulfil her intimate needs with her legitimate husband.
Furthermore, a woman should be respected and not be used merely as an object of sex.
Refer to the following Hadeeth:
لا يدخل الجنة ديوث
Nabi ﷺ said: “The cuckold will not enter Jannah” [Musnad Abu Daud]
‘Cuckold’ has been explained in other Ahadith as the man who does not have the quality of self-possessiveness over his wife and does not bother who visits his wife (from her non mahram).
Whilst your Nikah is valid, we advise you to make sincere taubah (repentance) and Istighfaar (seek forgiveness) and make a firm commitment never to revert to such immoral acts. You may also discharge some Sadaqah, as it extinguishes sin and cools the anger of Allah Ta’ala.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Mufti Muhammad I.V Patel
Checked and Concurred By
Mufti Safwaan Ibrahim